Learn to take care of your inner child. What is the Inner Child? How to meet him? What to do to heal and care for it? Many adults keep inside us that child we were. And sometimes he appears in our adult lives under different circumstances and for different reasons.
With these lines we want to help you to start taking charge of it. Since taking care of our inner Child will help us live a fuller and more authentic adult life and develop good self- esteem.
What is the Inner Child?
Our nurturing your inner child is an old part of ourselves that appears in the form of emotions, thoughts and feelings in the face of certain circumstances that activate it. We have all had emotional wounds in childhood that we could not resolve. If these experiences were not repaired, our child was left damaged. And even as adults we can feel it within us. Because growing on the outside does not always imply growing on the inside.
Ø Difficult childhood experiences
Frequently, children and adolescents can have life experiences that make them feel sad, alone, misunderstood, judged, ashamed, angry, helpless or scared. This generally happens in the face of criticism from others, in the face of invasion, demand or exclusion. And, in the most serious cases, in the face of abuse, abandonment and violence. When these experiences were very intense, very repeated and/or were not properly addressed, they leave a mark on us.
Ø Absence of repair
In order to deal with these highly emotionally charged situations, children need to experience solid, understanding, stable, loving, respectful and caring relationships of trust. Bonds that protect them and accompany them emotionally to face the natural difficulties of life. Like responsibilities, adverse social situations, new scenarios, changes, etc.
But not all of us have access to those relationships all the time or at the level that we would need. For example, maybe those responsible for taking care of us (parents, teachers, educators, etc.), were busy, or worried and we did not want to bother them with our stories. Or perhaps they themselves did not have the emotional skills to accompany us to solve them. Because in their own learning history they didn’t have them either. And in other cases, it may be they themselves who criticized us, or demanded. Generally from the good intention of helping us grow, but with an inadequate approach.
Many adults keep in our hearts the child we were. Now we can take care of him and heal our emotional wounds.